Transforming Aspects of the Ego

Transforming Aspects of the Ego

In this section we start to look at the areas of our lives that we feel hold us back or make us feel uncomfortable. We may have belief systems of failure, inferiority, lack, arrogance etc. Whatever it is, remember that it is all energy and we can transform it into something which better supports us.

If there is anything that you wish to work on, journey to your Place in Paradise. Call on your Guides, Angels and Ascended Masters of the highest vibration of Divinity to work with, through and around you.

When working in your garden, always come from a place of love. If you get stuck with a situation there, ask yourself ‘what would love do?’. Bring the sun into the picture and have it shine on the situation, person or thing so as to illuminate whatever you want to see or understand more clearly and then go into a place of observation.

Remember that the sun is an expression of Source and if you place your aspect under it, and ask the sun to give it what it needs, then it will. You may also receive some teaching from this. If you call the aspect of your own creations to step forward and several beings show up, or even a crowd, just ask one to step forward and represent all. It usually just means that this is part of a pattern that has occurred many times before.

These patterns can be passed down through the DNA as family loops where an unsolved/unprocessed emotion or belief has not been cleared, or they can be a behavioural pattern that we fall into when faced with a certain type of scenario.

Sometimes a family member may show up in the visualisation. This is usually because you have inherited a trait or belief system from them which doesn’t belong to you. You can tell your DNA to release it to source.

When working with patterns, the key is not to recreate them but to find a solution and create something better that supports your greatest potential. Thought patterns that form in the mind can also be transformed for the better using affirmations. They can be of great benefit here.

Below is a process for transforming aspects of the ego.

Vulnerable and scared

I remember in one session, an aspect of my ego showed up as me when I was in a rebellious stage of my life. I avoided authoritative figures and strongly disliked being told what to do. This was a reaction to feeling controlled as a youngster.

Consequently, I saw an earlier version of myself who never wore anything that matched: ALL my jewellry, colours and designs were carefully picked so that they clashed. I had bright blue eye-brows, multi coloured dreadlocks and my style was outrageous to put it mildly.

This rebel was not interested in speaking with me, the person that she had now become. All she could do was make vile hand gestures at me and hide behind her jungle of rainbow coloured hair. She was adamant that she would not co-operate with me.

Now, I knew how she felt because I had been her once. I knew that she looked scary because inside she was very soft, vulnerable and scared. I also knew how delicate and unhappy she was. I remembered how she longed to be free in her expression and I knew that this was a concentrated exaggeration of many years of suppression.

I was able to show her empathy and explain to her that she couldn’t get away from me because she was me. I explained that the only reason she was there was because I had called upon the aspect of my own creations that was ready for transformation to step forward, and she did.

I explained to her that this was her time to receive all of the things that she had been longing for because she was ready.

Eventually she understood that this rebellious nature no longer supported me in where I wanted to be in life and that by behaving in this way, she was making us a vibrational match to rebellion. She realized that if she co-operated, she would finally be able to enjoy the life that she’d wanted all along.

As we chatted she let me into her sensitive side. She needed me to give her permission to be free so I did.

She needed me to listen to her so I did.

She needed me to believe in, to love, accept and protect her so I did.

She was very vulnerable to start with but by the end of the process she felt confident enough to step into her power and freedom. As she did so, I felt it in my body as a surge of energy, an explosion of self love accompanied by a lightness and bright light. I felt as though a great weight had lifted from me.

Sometimes we may have to counsel ourselves a little. By doing this we learn how to speak to others in healthy ways. Understanding how someone feels changes the way that you treat them.

Through this process we can learn to manage ourselves better.

And what if I don’t know how to handle whatever presents itself to me?

Should you come across something that you don’t know how to deal with, you can return it to Source, trusting that it will come back to you when you are ready to work with it.

You may think that you are not always equipped to deal with some things, but when you stretch yourself a little, you realize that you are. It is through these challenges that we grow.

REMEMBER you have asked the aspect of your own creations that is ready for transformation to stand forward. It is ready to join you so it will more than likely co-operate! This is both a learning and remembering experience.

Gems and crystals for transformation

Moldavite – the gem stone for transformation

Ruby – Increases self-confidence, determination and abundance

Sapphire – Known as the wisdom stone, it clears and purifies the mind

Exercise 8 – Transforming aspects of Ego

1) Ask your third eye to open to the truth only. Call on the aspect that is ready for transformation to stand before you.  

2) Ask it what it does. Listen for the answer.

3) Ask it what its purpose is.  Listen for the answer.

4) Tell it how it is not helping you and explain to it where you are heading. You can show it too by imagining it. Ask it if it would like to join you.

5) If the answer is yes (and it usually is, as it is ready for transformation), ask the aspect what it needs to join you. Give it what it needs so long as it is healthy and wholesome. If it wants something unhealthy, explain why it is not healthy and ask it what it needs again.

Continue with steps 4 and 5, asking it what it needs, and giving it to it until it needs no more. At this point you are usually in better communication with it. If you become stuck here, put it under the sun and observe what happens.

You can also ask it if it would like some healing. If the answer is yes, then give it to it, calling in your Guides, Angels and Ascended Masters to help. Go into a place of observation, love and allowing.

8) Ask it if it is ready to join you. Wait for the answer.

9) If you get a yes, ask it what its purpose is now and what it does. By now, it should have changed and you should notice that what it does now supports where you are going.

10)  Now that it is ready, ask where in your body it would like to live.

11) Allow it to return to you, healed, purified and up-dated. Feel it in your body and allow the transformed energy to integrate. Notice how you feel.

Enjoy how you feel now, and let the details of this process go. Avoid the temptation of constantly talking about your experience, as this can re-enforce the old pattern that you just worked so hard to transform.  When you realise that this stuff works, you often want to tell everyone.

The above exercise is a good practice of management skills. What becomes apparent here is that if you address an ‘attitude’ of yours with an attitude, it doesn’t resolve. You just have resistance, disagreement and what can appear to be an argument to handle. Working in a non-reactive, neutral, mindful, loving way gives the best results.